What is More Important than Time?

This a recent email to my LinkedIn connections. It fits well here too. The more I discover the more I find I do not know. I wonder if that is a reason so many stop their discovery process. Living inside a myth is easier.

besuccessfulI have accomplished many successes over the course of my life and the most profound and rewarding happened quickly without any struggle or effort on my part. The common refrain that success comes by hard work and persistence is a large lie in my view. Good for keeping employees nose to the grindstone. Discovering what I do best and learning how to delegate the rest has been my focus. What is the source of effortlessness in this moment? My greatest successes happened while operating as an employee however.   That period is no longer available to me and for millions of others worldwide. I have reached the place where it is clear to me that what it takes to succeed now is entirely different from what it took to succeed as an employee. While many of the ‘rules’ for success may be similar and apply in all cases, principles if you will, there is much I have yet to discover.

I have determined three simple conditions are essential for my success. One is the beliefs I view the day provide what is possible for me to achieve. Limiting beliefs or worse, incongruent opposing beliefs produce failure. When I cannot set aside a belief and replace it with another, even for just a moment, I am stuck.impossibleNOT

Two is clarity comes from simplicity and enables focus. My daily ‘doing now’ list is short and replaced the long to ‘to do’ list I used to beat myself up with every evening.

The most important condition for effective action and accomplishment, for success daily is not time nor is it a set of skills I must continue to master. It is not intention, passion, bliss, or effective goal setting. All are useful but without one condition present make no difference. It is not in any of the courses I have taken over the last thirty years on leadership and dozens of other useful experiences. Concepts are always different from reality. When I have ‘this’ everything I do works. Without enough of ‘it’ I fail. This was useful as an employee but not essential to my day-to-day successes. What is it? Let me know and a future post will divulge my answer.

 

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Time to Push the Envelop, increase the Comfort Zone

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People are always blaming circumstances for what they are. I don’t believe in circumstances. The people who get on in this world are the people who get up and look for the circumstances they want, and, if they can’t find them, make them.

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As long as you live ‘outside’ your comfort zone you will struggle. Live totally inside and you will always come up short. What is just right for you?

Week – #17 Decisiveness – the Decision Skill

This week I am looking for decisiveness, in me and in the world.  It might be useful to define what it is.  With a little online research, we find many potential fables and myths.

Decisive people tend to be successful while indecisive people tend to fail. 

Research shows that decisiveness is good for us. 

I have not found the research to support either of these two DOwhatYOUfearstatements yet. They are plausible and we have been all taught plausible that isn’t true.

The short definition is 1. having the power or quality of deciding; putting an end to controversy [in your mind at least].

Therefore, you have to be able to decide to be decisive. Decides root is to cut, to eliminate all but one. Same with suicide, infanticide and homicide, which may be why some people ovoid deciding all together?

You must have a basis for your decision other than ‘I don’t wanna’. I suspect this is the first problem.  You must have your conditions for satisfaction and the conditions for no satisfaction clear to you.  This is different from a ‘Franklin close’ where you list the ‘reasons’ for alongside the ‘ideas’ against.  We all have conditions for satisfaction. Unfortunately, most people have ones done to them. 

dowhatismostimportantfirstYou also need to be willing to commit to a decision at some time or at some percentage of your conditions for satisfaction being in place.  It is easier to be decisive when we are clear about our conditions for satisfaction and focused on our goals. Being willing to decide, to act, even in the face of uncertainty, complexity or incomplete information is decisiveness.

He who hesitates is lost. Moreover, they usually have sour grape stories for results. Most of us have waited too long to act, to decide to go for it and when we do all the circumstances have changed in our waiting. Somebody else asked her out, the job offer is no longer available, the product is no longer on sale and the list is long.

Most of us have also come to a decision too quickly and regretted our discoverYourDreamactions afterwards.  The proverbial leaps before you look syndrome where an emotional response has us called for ‘off sides’ as it were. How many accidents have we been in because someone didn’t hesitate just a little longer.

There is then, a skill based on our failures that allows us to discover a sweet spot in reaching effective decisions.  Some of us however, have a habit labeled procrastination.

This week is about identifying decisiveness in my world.  The more you focus on anything the more abundant it becomes. Whatever you count grows.

dragonaffairsThere is always a risk we may be wrong. Perfect clarity is seldom available and if we have failed due to indecision recently the tendency to compensate may get in the way.  Some people eliminate decision all together with ‘choice’ theory.  The theory is that you can always make the other choice later.  Choice is fuzzy and frequently lets you off the commitment hook. A decision is a commitment to a course of action and therefore, indecision is a failure to commit. … or not as in still evaluating, waiting for the time to act which is procrastination.

Unless a man believes in himself and makes a total commitment to his career and puts everything he has into it — his mind, his body, his heart – what’s life worth to him? – Vince Lombardi

Become a worry-slapper. Treat frets like mosquitoes. Do you doyourthingprocrastinate when a bloodsucking bug lights on your skin? ‘I’ll take care of it in a moment.’ Of course you don’t! You give the critter the slap it deserves. Be equally decisive with anxiety. – Max Lucado 

I’m looking for decisive everywhere else too.  Remember to say out loud, with all the feeling you can generate, “Do IT NOW!!”   Twenty-five times takes almost no time. Three sets daily will have you in action quicker the next time an opportunity arises to act.

Week – #15 Everything is For Our Benefit

This week’s lesson offers more than most. Can we choose what motivates us? Do we eat from desire or from hunger?

You learned the concept ‘pain’ when you learned language. – Ludwig Wittgenstein

Haanel states this week, all conditions and experiences that come enthusiastto us are for our benefit; that we gain strength in proportion to the effort expended, and that our happiness is best attained through a conscious cooperation with natural laws.

You do not have to believe this. Accepting it will work.

1. The laws under which we live are designed solely for our advantage. These laws are immutable and we cannot escape from their operation.

We keep trying to escape, looking for the way out like a fly banging on a windowpane, right next to an opening that allows it to go free.

3. Difficulties, inharmonies, and obstacles, indicate that we are either refusing to give out what we no longer need, or refusing to accept what we require.

We keep hold of what no longer serves us, usually because it is known and therefore some kind of comfortable.  Receiving is just as important as giving. Both require the other.

bigdreams5. We cannot obtain what we lack if we tenaciously cling to what we have. We are able to consciously control our conditions as we come to sense the purpose of what we attract, and are able to extract from each experience only what we require for our further growth. Our ability to do this determines the degree of harmony or happiness we attain.

Harmony and happiness are tuning forks; find them in your life. Use them to adjust YOU to the circumstances.

7. All conditions and experiences that come to us do so for our benefit. Difficulties and obstacles will continue to come until we absorb their wisdom and gather from them the essentials of further growth.

Growing up I heard two statements over and over.  What we like least in others is what we like least in ourselves. The other was more direct. Remember whenever you point a finger at someone you are pointing three back at you.  The world is our mirror and the lesson will not let us pass until we have taken it full measure.

14. … if we wish to express abundance in our lives, we can afford lifeechoto think abundance only, and as words are only thoughts taking form, we must be especially careful to use nothing but constructive and harmonious language, which when finally crystallized into objective forms, will prove to our advantage.

The beginning of relaxation happens the moment we accept the tension.  The more you rebel, resist, ignore, pretend, ‘try’ to relax or hope it goes away all keep it steadfast in place.  Abundance is no different.  Something in us keeps it away.

Like everything metaphysical the harmony between thought and reality is to be found in the grammar of the language. – Ludwig Wittgenstein

20. We know that the Universal Thought has for its goal the creation of form, and we know that the individual thought is likewise forever attempting to express itself in form, and we know that the word is a thought form, and a sentence is a combination of thought forms, therefore, if we wish our ideal to be beautiful or strong, we must see that the words out of which crowdnoiselosesthis temple will eventually be created are exact, that they are put together carefully, because accuracy in building words and sentences is the highest form of architecture in civilization and is a passport to success.

Is this saying the written word is the passport to success?  The ease of video, especially off the cuff, zero edit, and free form has its place but Haanel seems to suggest it is not the highest form of architecture.  There are different kinds of spoken words also.  Talking to no end, babbling with no one remembering what is said is common on the one end all the way to speech acts like promising, declarations and affirmations.  When you say the black cat climbed the tree. No tree or black cat comes out of your mouth.  It does not form on the page or in your mind.  However, when you say “I promise…” a promise exists now.

22. Words may become mental places that will live forever, or they may become shacks which the first breeze will carry away. They may delight the eye as well as the ear; they may contain all knowledge; in them we find the history of the past as well as the hope of the future; they are living messengers from which every human and superhuman activity is born.

How much attention do we pay to our ‘word’ and how much to the ‘word’ of others?

Philosophy is like trying to open a safe with a combination lock: each little adjustment of the dials seems to achieve nothing, only when everything is in place does the door open. – Ludwig Wittgenstein

25. … if we apply the principle of Mathematics correctly we shall freeYOURselfFromMemorybe certain of our results. Where there is health there will be no disease. If we know the Truth we cannot be deceived by error. If we let in light there can be no darkness, and where there is abundance there can be no poverty.

This black and white version of reality is useful to stand in. It provides a measure of the distance required to attain what we are after. However, health and disease often reside together, one more powerful than the other. Knowing the truth and not being able to explain it, share it, present its case appears to allow error free rein.  Any light may eliminate absolute darkness and it may not be enough to see anything either. Abundance and poverty are both rampant in the world and can exist right next to each other.

29. In the physical world there is a law of compensation which is that “the appearance of a given amount of energy anywhere means the disappearance of the same amount somewhere else,” and so we find that we can get only what we give; if we pledge ourselves to a certain action we must be prepared to assume the responsibility for the development of that action. The subconscious cannot reason. It takes us at our word; we have asked for something; we are now to receive it; we have made our bed, we are now to lie in it; the die has been cast; the threads will carry out the pattern we have made.

The law of compensation may have equal balance as part of its equation. The law of creation offers another path and until you can create “nothing” all we are doing is changing stuff. “We must be prepared to assume the responsibility…” and depending on our definition or belief what responsibility means is the crux of the matter.  I assert that responsibility starts with willing to be cause in the matter and is devoid of fault and blame.

impossibleNOT31. Insight is a faculty of the mind whereby we are enabled to examine facts and conditions at long range, a kind of human telescope; it enables us to understand the difficulties, as well as the possibilities, in any undertaking.

Some people have insight better than others do. Some have it now and then and some appear totally unaware. Are those all a choice?

Whereof one cannot speak, thereof one must be silent. – Ludwig Wittgenstein

35. Insight is a product of the world within and is developed in the Silence, by concentration.

How long can you maintain concentration on one thing, while remaining completely silent?

Soon silence will have passed into legend. Man has turned his back on silence. Day after day he invents machines and devices that increase noise and distract humanity from the essence of life, contemplation, meditation. – Jean Arp

…knowledge does not apply itself. That our actions are not noexcusesgetresultsgoverned by knowledge, but by custom, precedent and habit. That the only way we can get ourselves to apply knowledge is by a determined conscious effort. Call to mind the fact that knowledge unused passes from the mind, that the value of the information is in the application of the principle.

If you read the previous post, In or Out Here, you now know that since Haanel’s day we know that ‘determined conscious effort’ (our way of being) may change the subconscious but still does not give us control in the now.  Building new precedents, new habits and new customs leaves us only as a machine still, without our will, without our purpose in charge of the moment while some other purpose, some other will holds sway. Is that it? Is our only chance at self-control redoing the wiring of a machine that operates on automatic? Knowledge and wisdom are never unused or lost but passes on to where and who will put them to use.

I sit astride life like a bad rider on a horse. I only owe it to the horse’s good nature that I am not thrown off at this very moment. – Ludwig Wittgenstein

Week – #6 Being Right, Time and Promising Integrity

This short video is worthy of review on a daily basis.  Having even a correct opinion is dangerous!

The course brings up many channels of thought for me.  My intention is to NEVER LET the subconscious rule any portion of my life. I find it energizing to feed ‘it’ a task or two to accomplish, especially just before I fall asleep and wake in the morning to discover it done! Sometimes I am not clear enough and the ‘present’ needs some more work.

I have studied time, read about, learned to slow it down and speed it up. There are some excellent books and Steve Chandler wrote, Time Warrior: How to defeat procrastination, people-pleasing, self-doubt, over-commitment, broken promises and chaos, one well worth the ‘time’.

One of the fundamental aspects of unworkability in the world is time. That’s the first lie. That’s the first apparency. That’s the beginning of the end of the truth. Time. You need to master time to have any mastery in the world. People who are at the effect of time, people who can’t create time, people who can’t manage time, people who can’t move time around, people who can’t handle time, people who are overwhelmed by time, have no mastery and no basis for mastery. The basis for mastery in the world is being able to handle time. So what we’re talking about instead of some new problem to handle is an enormous opportunity to create a context in the space, in a sense, and in an environment of workability. And that environment’s generated out of a mastery of time.
– Werner Erhard

The bold is mine. Clearly without a ‘handle’ on time we are at the effect of everything else.

I always keep my promises!

The integrity mountain has no top, so you better learn to love climbing.

Integrity in our model is honoring your word. As such integrity is a purely positive phenomenon. It has nothing to do with good vs. bad, right vs. wrong behavior. Like the law of gravity the law of integrity just is, and if you violate the law of integrity as we define it you get hurt just as if you try to violate the law of gravity with no safety device. The personal and organizational benefits of honoring one’s word are huge — both for individuals and for organizations — and generally unappreciated.

Integrity Is Honoring Your Word, and Honoring Your Word Is

1. Keeping your word, and on time OR:
2. Whenever you will not be keeping your word, just as soon as you become aware that you will not be keeping your word (including not keeping your word on time) saying to everyone impacted:
a. that you will not be keeping your word, and
b. that you will keep that word in the future, and by when, or, that you won’t be keeping that word at all, and
c. what you will do to deal with the impact on others of the failure to keep your word (or to keep it on time).

The one thing I’m clear about is EVERYONE is capable of being great. Not compared to someone else. I mean GREAT for yourself. I’m committed to you realizing you’re great.
— Werner Erhard

Now go back and watch the video again!