Leadership, Conversation, Action or Something Else?

I am reading two to three books at any time. There are a couple I sip on less than daily.

Leadership is a topic of interest for me and many of you as well.  Like most of what we know, the blief and commentary are often unrelated to the experience.  I am less and less inclined to buy the compost version of leadership, the one that sets itself up to be followed AlreadyAlwaysListening2and instead I am looking for the practices and principles of what will it take for all of us to lead, to no longer following anyone.

Leadership is not a postion or an office but requires integrity [do you do what you say you will do to yourself?], authenticity [rare in a world filled with mobs and copy cats], a commitment to something bigger than yourself [the capacity was not completely taken from you in grade school] and a stand for being cause-in-the-matter [no there is nobody to blame.].

I find it rarely.  How about you?

Time to Push the Envelop, increase the Comfort Zone

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People are always blaming circumstances for what they are. I don’t believe in circumstances. The people who get on in this world are the people who get up and look for the circumstances they want, and, if they can’t find them, make them.

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Goals, Past, Present, 2015

The end of the year and the beginning of a new one is the most common theme this week worldwide. What are your goals for the year ahead?  I am grateful for this last year’s lessons and successes.  I am excited for 2015.  What does the New Year hold for each of us?

What makes the difference for each of us?

You must live for another if you wish to live for yourself. – Seneca

And when overlaid with…

Life yields only to the conqueror. Never accept what can be gained by giving in. You will be living off stolen goods, and your muscles will atrophy. – Dag Hammarskjold

The clue is to hold two different thoughts in place at the same time. whoYouareNOT

I live life on vacation in paradise.  It does not occur that way for everyone and it annoys some people who believe I did not ‘earn’ it.  The conventional ‘golden rule’ is to treat others how you wish to be treated.  Even when practiced it is abuse, because it is completely wrong. Nobody wants to be treated how ‘I’ want to be treated except me. Everyone wants to be treated how they want to be treated but most have ‘given in’ to normalized behavior!

Every human being is unique: you cannot treat men and women as units in a neat scheme without doing violence to them. – Gerald Vann

Discovering how others want to be treated is mostly observation and a few questions. Along the way you may even discover what your gift is that puts you on vacation in paradise.

Realizing when you have one good hammer, everything appears to be a nail worth pounding, requires a level of discernment that can only comes after many experiments. Figuring out which experiments worked and what the ingredients were before you pounded them into the ground may take a long time and annoy many along the way.

perspective2What I have discovered is most of what’s sold as required skills, attitudes and formula essentially blame the victim for their failure.  I know life is designed to work. If it isn’t working, I am either working from the wrong design or telling a story about it that keeps it all drama. I have never bought the fear angle.  The sloth perspective needs more work.

When am I being lazy?  If my minimum daily new contact number is ten and after a week or so of fifteen plus daily I slack off to ten or even 5, am I being slothful?  We all tend to be more critical of ourselves than useful.  Others may shirk from doing anything because they can’t do my ten as easily as I am. I couldn’t in the beginning either but no one noticed, not even me.  I wish I knew how to give people the ability to ‘play’ in this sandbox no matter what happens, rain or shine.  Something about willingness is missing too often.

We all live inside a network of people.  I have managed to assemble a large group in many cognitivedisonanceplaces.  This last couple of months I have spent more time on my cold frozen market.  What I didn’t realize, even though I knew the correct answer, is it takes many more contacts to warm people up to what is possible.  It requires more of me being present.   I am in the collecting decisions business.  We make decisions based on a number of factors using one or more decision trees we have developed.   Most of what I knew before last year was how to lead someone to a decision with his or her mind.  It may be useful to know how but essentially powerless when either the heart or the gut says otherwise.  I discovered the mind was never designed to make decisions but has only been recently ‘programmed’ by schooling and advertising to run the show leaving people stuck in emotional dramas because their gut and heart is either screaming “NO” or is ignored entirely.  Much of the sales training is mind based and therefore mindless.

I am committed to discovering how to let my heart and gut rule and allow the mind to follow, consult from time to time and keep track of the statistics.  Success has always come from who I know being greater than what I know.  What I know is often a perspective limited to a single point of view I hold in the moment that always changes if I move or if I am moving, stop and pause for a moment to take another look.

One of my morning queries is ‘What is my source for being ‘notoriously’ happy today?’  The question has proven useful.  I have a minimum daily contact of ten people.   Combined with follow-ups and various other tactics in place when I keep the commitment, happiness occurs all over the place and I find myself doing more than I said.  The habit bears fruit while when doing less, plus $1.25 doesn’t buy a paper and a cup of coffee.  Funny how that works and the fruitful busy button will stay pushed without effort or trouble at ten or higher.  I am not saying the correct answer for anyone else is an MDC of ten.  You must find your number.  It is greater than zero.

endbeginning2There is another value I enjoy called effortlessness that appears at ten and higher.  I suggest effortlessness is comprised of four equal partners, integrity, responsibility, defenselessness and acceptance.  All four require more study and practice on my part and I will move into mastery of all four in 2015.   The key has been following my heart and gut in practice while ignoring the constant nattering of the minds’ ‘never good enough’ equations.

Another overlay is instead of a ‘to do’ list I have a “Doing Now List”.  That as long as I use it as designed doing today what I said I would do today is almost an automatic.

The tactic I find most useful in accomplishing everything is:

Ask until given to you.
Seek until you find.
Knock until the door opens.
[repeat]

The reasoning or strategy using any tactic comes from your purpose, goal, dream or vision of the future.  I have shared a number of my dreams and goals over the years and a successfulfew I wrote down without telling anyone.  The ones that happened with the least struggle, effortlessly were the secret ones I revealed after the fact.  Making your goals public was the method I learned first.  A Brian Tracy course suggested I needed to be less public to nearly secret about the goals until after accomplished.   A skill, like riding the bicycle, only happens in the use and experience of it.  An excellent blog post on the Six Types of Goal Setters written three years ago by Arina Nikitina is worthy of annual review.  In 2015, I will help at least 50 people produce ongoing residual income that will be greater than their expenses.   The math suggests it is possible in ten years, ten months or ten weeks.  The one variable I have no control over is you. Do you?

The FOUR Biggest Reasons for Failure

Any of these four will produce failure every time and there is nothing special about the order.

success12# 1) Believe the ‘marketing’ preached by every single program, political party or religion! My favorite one is you have to have first mover advantage, join early, get in at the beginning before the herd and buy into prelaunch tactics forever. The ‘hurry up and wait’ gets very old. Another one is failure is not your fault. That sounds nice but who really is in charge of your life then? As long as you live in hope, you will fail. Hope is NOT a strategy and is never a tactic to acquire or succeed at anything. If you cannot distinguish between marketing, truth and reality, you are doomed. Yes, the truth gives you a small chance to be free. If you say, ‘if it is too good to be true it likely isn’t’, then please leave now. You are invincibly brainwashed and sabotage your success every time. The ability and willingness to think for yourself is rare and not taught in government institutions.

# 2) You failed because the organization was actually a sifting and sorting mechanism for the few who succeed regardless of circumstances or conditions. Most people have not valued their first and second tier relationships enough to know how important they are. If your friends and family will not or cannot support you, why would strangers? You did not have the skills, the experience or support required to accomplish the objectives. YOU are not ‘qualified’ to succeed in every area or task. Again, hope is not a strategy or tactic for success. How do you become qualified is a worthwhile question. Who determines the qualifications?   It is not the government, any government by the way.

successcycle# 3)  Everyone is committed and outcomes make them clear. If yours is tentative and conditional combined with the same from the organization you will fail. Most of us have tried enough to know that ‘try’ only produces an education in failure, a learning experience. Some will do their best but once reached, they quit also. The excuse, “I did my best” placates all failures. We live in a time when contracts are worthless, no fault divorce is easy come easy go and a person’s word means even less. Consequently, you don’t trust yourself or anyone else. Until you know that you can count on yourself without anyone watching and until you have accomplished the impossible for you just past where you usually quit, you will continue to fail by habit.

#4)  You are not a leader and only want to be a follower.  A leader takes responsibility for all outcomes, is ‘cause’ in the matter of their life. If you keep following the same path to oblivion as the rest of your group, you have nobody but you to blame for the same outcomes. Results matter. Ignoring the ‘fruit’ is a sure way to fail. Hang out with people that inspire you and you become who you spend your time with. Bad fruit and good fruit hang out in separate groups.

The list is a longer than just these four but these four once identified can make the success6difference. Awareness of these four areas can produce ground where success has a real chance to thrive.

Will you stay the course; commit to at least one year or even better, 18 months, to allow the ‘fruit’ to ripen?   Yes, you need to know all the costs up front but nothing you have ever done successfully happened in days, weeks or a few short months. If your memory tells you otherwise, you have forgotten the most important steps you took to get there.

Can you follow directions and complete actions without regard for how you ‘think’ it should turn out? Yes means you are coachable. Most people cannot, will not let go of the thinking and beliefs that only serve their masters interests.

Where do you want to go and how do you get there? It will not happen on your own. Find a group that supports you! Where do we want to go and how do we get there? Liberals, democrats and socialists have their own groups. They have their own conditions for satisfaction, tenets, rules and beliefs and claim profit is evil. Profit pays for everything, not the government. The total number of jobs has been declining in the USA since the 1960’s while the number of people looking for a job keeps rising. Can you guess why ‘pay’ has not increased and never will.

Everyone loves sales! What you fear is rejection! …

There is a successful life out there but all of the obstacles are in your mind.

If money is your problem, money won’t solve your problem. – James A. Ray

success10You are today where your thoughts have brought you; you will be tomorrow where your thoughts take you. – James Allen

At the bottom no one in life can help anyone else in life; this one experiences over and over in every conflict and every perplexity: that one is alone. That isn’t as bad as it may first appear; and again it is the best thing in life that each should have everything in himself; his fate, his future, his whole expanse and world. – Rainer Maria Rilke

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Focus, Leadership and Influence…

Where focus goes, energy flows.

Most programs and most training programs want you to focus on sifting and sorting YOURnewNotanyoneelsessuspects and prospects for ‘their’ opportunity.  Whether it is network marketing, affiliate marketing the sifting ‘job’ is worse than work. The few who figure it out will earn plenty but offering people your ‘funded proposal’ so most people only realize smoke and sizzle wears thin. Karma bites victims often. Blaming victims is the number one industry pastime. Instead of sifting and sorting with the prospects money in hand what if you began qualifying people first. Is your focus and commitment to their success bigger than theirs is and if not why not! The Lone Ranger rides again!!

People are not afraid of failure, they are afraid of blame. The belief that you have to help people and how may in fact be destroying any chance they could have for success. When the caterpillar enters the chrysalis stage, any ‘help’ you provide insures it will never fly. Most programs suck you dry, clip your wings permanently and blame you for your failure. Helping is important when feeding caterpillars or naiads.

outonalimbNaiads hatch from eggs and live for years in the water feeding on smaller life forms, usually mosquito larvae. One day they climb out of the water and the exposure to sun and air has them breathe. Their shell breaks, they crawl out of their shell, pump their wings and the dragonfly spends the next six months or less feeding on smaller insects, mostly mosquitoes.

In a world that works for everyone, with no one left out and no one left behind, will we focus on caterpillars and naiads or will we support the butterfly and dragonfly? It appears to me the current system keeps ‘people’ naiads and caterpillars.

Fairy tales are more than true: not because they tell us that dragons exist, but because they tell us that dragons can be beaten. – GK Chesterton

I cannot help anyone who will not help himself or herself. You have to want to slay your own dragons. If anyone else does it for you, it cannot count towards your success. The cults of leadership and leaders are mostly dragons.   A ‘promised land’ for caterpillars and naiads is a myth. The North American Monarch butterfly migrates to and from Mexico. The Monarchs in the Valley of Eternal Spring stay here. Monarchs have no leader. What influence makes the difference?

Goal: An object or an event towards which PLAY is directed in order to score.

If your goal is survival, the best score only keeps you alive. If your goal is success at an MLM or any other caterpillar/naiad game, the play is at least ten thousand hours long, on the same field before you can hope to surpass survival. You still have to transform in the process.

What does a program designed for a dragonfly or a butterfly look like? It is not MLM, network marketing, gifting, a money game or the majority of online offerings pandered today. It is only for the tenacious. Persistence, much like pestering, is a caterpillar trait. Tenacity accesses the same data differently; tenacity influences decisions using paths unavailable to naiads and caterpillars. Tenacity achieves goals the old ways, the RUReadycaterpillars and naiads could never imagine.

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The Dream Of Life – Alan Watts – YouTube

Michael Eisbrener:

Read along with Alan Watts. Ponder, contemplate daily and suddenly life will reveal itself to you. If you get lost in the video finish and begin again.

Originally posted on juntamng:

If you awaken from this illusion
and you understand that black implies white
self implies other
life implies death
or shall I say death implies life
you can feel yourself.
Not as a stranger in the world.
Not as something here on probation.
Not as something that has arrived here by fluke.
But you can begin to feel your own existence
as absolutely fundamental.
I’m not trying to sell you on this idea
in the sense of converting you to it.
I want you to play with it.
I want you to think of its possiblities.
I’m not trying to prove it
I’m just putting it forward as a possibility of life to think about
So then…
Let’s suppose that you were able every night,
to dream any dream you wanted to dream.
And that you could for example have the power
within one night to dream seventy five years…

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Transformation: The Life & Legacy of Werner Erhard

Originally posted on Werner Erhard and Est:

This documentary offers viewers a rare view into the life and ideas of Werner Erhard. A compelling documentary film, Transformation: The Life and Legacy of Werner Erhard premiered at the Palm Beach film festival to a Standing Room Only crowd and went on to break the box office records during its opening week at the Quad Cinema in New York.

In exclusive interviews, Werner Erhard speaks candidly about the early days of est and the ideas that underpin his work.

Insightful and rare footage allows you to step inside the est Training, and hear provocative interviews with academics, celebrities and family members.  Experts speak of the world-wide phenomenon that Werner Erhard initiated with his thought provoking and inventive approach to “transformation”.

The documentary digs deep into the hard questions of Werner Erhard’s programs and ground-breaking work.  Viewers will learn how Werner’s ideas have permeated the very fabric of society –…

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