Focus, Leadership and Influence…

Where focus goes, energy flows.

Most programs and most training programs want you to focus on sifting and sorting YOURnewNotanyoneelsessuspects and prospects for ‘their’ opportunity.  Whether it is network marketing, affiliate marketing the sifting ‘job’ is worse than work. The few who figure it out will earn plenty but offering people your ‘funded proposal’ so most people only realize smoke and sizzle wears thin. Karma bites victims often. Blaming victims is the number one industry pastime. Instead of sifting and sorting with the prospects money in hand what if you began qualifying people first. Is your focus and commitment to their success bigger than theirs is and if not why not! The Lone Ranger rides again!!

People are not afraid of failure, they are afraid of blame. The belief that you have to help people and how may in fact be destroying any chance they could have for success. When the caterpillar enters the chrysalis stage, any ‘help’ you provide insures it will never fly. Most programs suck you dry, clip your wings permanently and blame you for your failure. Helping is important when feeding caterpillars or naiads.

outonalimbNaiads hatch from eggs and live for years in the water feeding on smaller life forms, usually mosquito larvae. One day they climb out of the water and the exposure to sun and air has them breathe. Their shell breaks, they crawl out of their shell, pump their wings and the dragonfly spends the next six months or less feeding on smaller insects, mostly mosquitoes.

In a world that works for everyone, with no one left out and no one left behind, will we focus on caterpillars and naiads or will we support the butterfly and dragonfly? It appears to me the current system keeps ‘people’ naiads and caterpillars.

Fairy tales are more than true: not because they tell us that dragons exist, but because they tell us that dragons can be beaten. – GK Chesterton

I cannot help anyone who will not help himself or herself. You have to want to slay your own dragons. If anyone else does it for you, it cannot count towards your success. The cults of leadership and leaders are mostly dragons.   A ‘promised land’ for caterpillars and naiads is a myth. The North American Monarch butterfly migrates to and from Mexico. The Monarchs in the Valley of Eternal Spring stay here. Monarchs have no leader. What influence makes the difference?

Goal: An object or an event towards which PLAY is directed in order to score.

If your goal is survival, the best score only keeps you alive. If your goal is success at an MLM or any other caterpillar/naiad game, the play is at least ten thousand hours long, on the same field before you can hope to surpass survival. You still have to transform in the process.

What does a program designed for a dragonfly or a butterfly look like? It is not MLM, network marketing, gifting, a money game or the majority of online offerings pandered today. It is only for the tenacious. Persistence, much like pestering, is a caterpillar trait. Tenacity accesses the same data differently; tenacity influences decisions using paths unavailable to naiads and caterpillars. Tenacity achieves goals the old ways, the RUReadycaterpillars and naiads could never imagine.

The GAME:

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The Dream Of Life – Alan Watts – YouTube

Michael Eisbrener:

Read along with Alan Watts. Ponder, contemplate daily and suddenly life will reveal itself to you. If you get lost in the video finish and begin again.

Originally posted on juntamng:

If you awaken from this illusion
and you understand that black implies white
self implies other
life implies death
or shall I say death implies life
you can feel yourself.
Not as a stranger in the world.
Not as something here on probation.
Not as something that has arrived here by fluke.
But you can begin to feel your own existence
as absolutely fundamental.
I’m not trying to sell you on this idea
in the sense of converting you to it.
I want you to play with it.
I want you to think of its possiblities.
I’m not trying to prove it
I’m just putting it forward as a possibility of life to think about
So then…
Let’s suppose that you were able every night,
to dream any dream you wanted to dream.
And that you could for example have the power
within one night to dream seventy five years…

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Transformation: The Life & Legacy of Werner Erhard

Originally posted on Werner Erhard and Est:

This documentary offers viewers a rare view into the life and ideas of Werner Erhard. A compelling documentary film, Transformation: The Life and Legacy of Werner Erhard premiered at the Palm Beach film festival to a Standing Room Only crowd and went on to break the box office records during its opening week at the Quad Cinema in New York.

In exclusive interviews, Werner Erhard speaks candidly about the early days of est and the ideas that underpin his work.

Insightful and rare footage allows you to step inside the est Training, and hear provocative interviews with academics, celebrities and family members.  Experts speak of the world-wide phenomenon that Werner Erhard initiated with his thought provoking and inventive approach to “transformation”.

The documentary digs deep into the hard questions of Werner Erhard’s programs and ground-breaking work.  Viewers will learn how Werner’s ideas have permeated the very fabric of society –…

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What is Holding Me Back?

If I am only a passenger in the vehicle thinking I am the driver, I do not have the control I believe I have. If everyone is a passenger, while an unknown driver who knows our destination is driving, what is there to worry about? If the driver doesn’t know the destination why am I a passenger? If I am in one car on a train, where people are committed to one side of the car I ride makes all the difference in our destination, as long as the view from the side I am on makes me happy, confirms my belief, all is well. When I don’t like my view of the direction we are headed I may be tempted to switch sides believing that affects our destination somehow.

perspective2The squares and circles we use as excuses, arguments, justifications and beliefs never make any difference. Plato’s shadows on the cave wall still enslave and mesmerize us, even when we suspect none of it is true. We are still stuck like crabs in a bucket. Someone will support our vision…our beliefs keeping us stuck in our perspectives.

I have been standing in the question ‘What is holding me back?’ for a long time.  Perhaps the question only gives the squares and circles keeping the ‘held back’ experience always present.

The nattering regarding time [insufficient usually], difficulties [ongoing Goldilocks sagas], readiness [starting usually] and worthiness [more insufficiencies] all happen in our minds, from an in-the-stands perspective amounting to book size justifications. School taught us to think and look for the correct answer. That is the wrong universe!!!

The latest in neuroscience and cognitive science research says…

The belief that our attitude or state of mind influences or causes the way we act is a fallacy.

The belief that our feelings or emotions influence or cause the way we act is a fallacy.

The belief that our body sensations influence or cause the way we act is a fallacy.

The belief that our decisions influence or cause the way we act is also a fallacy.

As a three year old, the one thing that impacts accomplishment is not smothered yet.whoYouareNOT

No magic buttons affect our actions. ‘Yeah, but’ at best is just a gif. The application that may work is:

Knock UNTIL the door opens
Seek UNTIL you find
Ask UNTIL you have it
REPEAT

What we see is always and all ways a function of what we believe. Until we can set aside one belief as easily as we can another, we are blind. Consider all beliefs are a lie or at best incomplete truth. Any nanomicrocosm of doubt voids the ‘whatever you want you can have’ warranty too.

Accepting what is happening, without paying causal attention to the circle or square, without judgments, without justifications is not easy or simple to acquire.  One plus one equals three and two is a lie or at best a bridge.

wonderYou do not change your reality through doing anything. … Enlightenment is not an experience. – Richard Rudd

The choice of perspective is always to live in a lie.

How do I move into the driver seat? Is it possible to get out of the train, get in front of it and lay new track while the train is moving? Is either question a possibility in this paradigm? What delusion keeps it all in place?

Sometimes I’ve believed as many as six impossible things before breakfast. – Lewis Carroll

Getting rid of a delusion makes us wiser than getting hold of a truth. – Ludwig Borne

The only escape, the only way out, the only way forward, the only exit from the box is remaining present in the moment to now. As an answer, this is worthless information.

 

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Leaders are NOT Babysitters

My experience of most leaders and leadership is a mutual endeavor to be taken care of and to take care of ‘people’. That insures a codependence preventing ‘people’ from ever experiencing themselves as ‘leader’. Asking me to accept a babysitter for anyone older than fourteen is abuse. Yeah, but you do too.

integritycourageThere are four foundational factors concerning leadership and leaders. They are integrity, authenticity, being committed to something bigger than yourself and being cause-in-the-matter. Each of these deserves a series of blog posts over the next year.

Leader and leadership have four aspects to their contextual framework.   They are the linguistic abstractions, phenomena, concepts and terms. Blogs on all of this are coming and all the source material that will get in the way of all of it as well.

The two kinds of ontological constraints, often ignored or not identified, are perceptional constraints and functional constraints. Click on any links for additional information.

An epistemological mastery (a from-the-stands mastery) of a subject leaves one knowing. An ontological mastery (an on-the-court mastery) of a subject leaves one being. – Werner Erhard

There is a belief, a myth actually, that if it isn’t difficult or a challenge, if it didn’t take a lot of struggle and hard work, ‘it’ isn’t worth remembering or doing. That goes against all of my best breakthrough experiences. What led up to the breakthrough was not always simple or easy to explain and sometimes involved a story about difficulty or ‘hard’ work but the actual experience while it happened, while the breakdown was in progress had a sense of effortlessness. The breakthrough effortlessness is multi-directional compared to a single line of breakdown effortlessness. Only afterward, was I ‘required’ or ‘taught’ to explain it relative to the perception of difficult, especially for anyone else.

I struggle daily with judging and justifications. The struggle is to notice when it begins. Judgments, especially related to awareness5myself, are always using the standard of a future perfect me. [Or you] When I notice that, only then may I let it go to notice real perfection. All justifications are ploys used by the mind to keep me [or you] out of ‘now’, the present, that one place in time “I” may exist. Any justification is an excuse related to some judgment about how it should or could be and only happen in the mind from a place not now.

Real perfection is noticing and letting me [or you] be exactly the way I am [you are] and exactly the way I am [you are] not. Stop lying about it. Improvements, the way to additional achievements is only possible from where I am [you are] now and never from anywhere else.

[Y]ou do not change your reality through doing anything. … Enlightenment is not an experience. – Richard Rudd [one plus one only equals three, 2 is a myth or maybe a 'bridge']

What is intradependence?

Michael Eisbrener:

A conversation for intradepenence….

Originally posted on intradependence:

I am a firm believer in independent learning which for me, is allowing children to acquire processes that their natural enquiring minds feel most comfortable.  One of the important aspects of learning that applies to all children is to work at that own pace.  Some teachers see this as an excuse to be lazy, but by motivating the children through good leadership skills a teacher can guide a student towards high quality learning.  It is not a question of nature vs nurturing – I firmly believe that a teacher’s role is to nurture the child.  One of my preferred methods is through sharing and collaboration.  In the modern high tech 21st century world, it seems that our children will work on projects in collaboration with people around the world, so to be competitive in the job market they need to acquire the skills and processes that collectively I term as…

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Beliefs DETERMINE Our Results!

Beliefs reside in our conscious mind and in our subconscious. Holding beliefs that are incompatible is cognitive dissonance and everyone who looks has work to do on cognitivedisonancethemselves or it is done to you.

Self-limiting beliefs that we are unaware of run us producing results determined by the belief and we then justify with our story of reality. When aware of them you have a choice to ignore, to stop being aware or take a new approach. Removing them may take a lifetime or some, once you learn how to ‘weed’ your mind, may disappear permanently.

One of my favorite stories is in Matthew and Mark where Jesus walks up to a fig tree expecting it to have figs out of season.  The fig tree said no and it had a great excuse too. However, the Creator of the Universe asked for something He clearly had given the fig tree permission to do and all the power necessary to produce it.  The consequences of no figs today, I’m not ready yet, it isn’t a good time now, this isn’t the season, was the fig tree was cursed to ruble and dust in hours. Clearly, the fig tree had a self-limiting belief.  That dash or more of doubt we keep around is dangerous to our health!

What keeps us stuck is self-talk that we hardly ever notice.  The three versions all of us have on standby run like, “I am not worthy” and or “If I try I am sure to fail” and or “If I succeed/fail nobody will want me”.  The reality is anything worth doing is worth failing at the first couple hundred times if necessary. I believe success appears sometime after the 99th failure.  If you have ever practiced playing the piano or heard someone practicing at playing the piano, you have heard failure over and over.  Provided they continued practicing at some point, playing the piano occurred.

holediggerGetting to where you hear your own self-talk for the first time, you may have to peel back the onion of your mind many times to find it that first time. What hides and covers that chatter from us are layers of great reasons and justifications.  All of us have programmed ourselves and been programmed since childhood to keep the core hidden with layer after layer. There is no specific order either. Some of us may have a few and others the same ones over and over on top of over and over.  Tired of attempting upon attempt is not a reason to take a nap or go to sleep. It just may be the clue to stay awake! Here are some of my layers that each needs a blog post and a few an entire blog series to weed out of existence.

Do you practice being the Lone Ranger, Batman or Superman while operating from the stands instead of on the court? Nobody can learn the nature of relationship and networking, especially when confusing them with involvement and entanglement.

Do you love to argue against every other point of view than yours?  What would happen if you chose to hear all suggestions or ideas from others as an attempt to assist you in your dreams? Where and when did they offer the defenselessness class? I missed it.

Your persistence has a limit; a number that when reached means you stop. Fanatical success6persistence unshaken by circumstance, the crowd in the stands or the chatter in your head is a habit worth developing.

From birth to the present, the world says conform.  What does it look like to be yourself, the unique person you could be, if you got out of your own way?

To be nobody but yourself in a world which is doing its best, night and day, to make you everybody else means to fight the hardest battle which any human being can fight; and never stop fighting. – e. e. cummings

Finding the ‘Goldilocks’ just right confidence is also a class I missed. Are you stuck in too little or too much? Excessive confidence, too little humility and total ignorance of authenticity is a formula for disaster.  Much of going past your limits to find them is a perfect way to stretch the mind to where it can never go back to a workable reality.

The ability to engage in multiple distractions daily, often called multi-tasking, hides what you are to do from being done.  Failing to concentrate your focus on one thing at a time until completion is living out of focus.  Dreams’ coming true requires perpetual focus.

The worst ‘holic’ is an excusaholic.  When you form a habit for your mind to have one [or more] excuse ready for every circumstance, living in the Valley of Death surrounded by mountains with no top called, responsibility, accountability and integrity is a very dark place. Wallowing in credit, blame, fault and no fault guarantees you never leave.

whenIndoubtdontUntil you are able to carve out a space for possibility for you to show up in, to be a stand for your dreams and all that they make possible, you are standing in a space of no belief.   What is worse than no belief is to carve out a space of doubt with a little belief curtained to hide it.  Even a space of possibility with a dash of doubt is the ground of failure.  Mountains move when there is no doubt.

Total indifference is quitting on life. The lack of caring is not zero emotional attachment to the outcome.  The ability to ignore the score while being firmly committed to the object or events at hand is when making a difference shows up. When did they steal our ability to play full out?  They didn’t but they covered it with nice, fairness, equal outcomes and working on your own by yourself as priorities instead. When you stopped willing to risk embarrassment, being wrong, looking stupid or silly you chose being the worst kind of indifferent. You chose to be right about what everyone else wanted for your life instead of what you wanted. Real communication is insuring what they heard is what you meant by what you said. Going along to get along, settling for good enough, especially in their ‘listening’ dooms you to more indifference.

The definition of ‘goal’ is an object or an event towards which play is directed in order to action2score.  You can change all your goals to align with your dreams. Only tell people your accomplishments after a goals completion.  Keep your dreams safe from naysayers and dream stealers.  Ignore the score as best you can.

The mind is not an onion. It seems more like the ebb and flow of the ocean tide.  No sooner have you made a dent in any of the above and one of the others or one I have failed to identify moves in to replace any gain or success.  At the core is our self-worth. It holds hands with our self-imposed limits. We all collect evidence at the subconscious level that “I am not worthy”, “I am sure to fail”, and “nobody will want me”.  Every path to success is paved with the proof. How do you succeed?  The short answer is one-step at a time.   Stay tuned for the long, detailed answers.  What say you, from either the court or the stands and do you know the difference?